Gratitude

Tonight was gratitude night on lifeclass.  

It is so important to be thankful for the things in your life.  Everyone has something to be thankful for.  You just have to look at things from a different way.  Things are only the truth from a certain point of view.  So i wanted to write a blog aabout what i am thankful for.  Some things people will go WTF.  That doesn't matter this is what i am thankful for.  

I am thankful for my wonderful children.  I am so thankful for the strife i have gone though in my life that has taught me life lessons.  I am thankful for my father he has taught me so very much about life and expectations.  I am thankful for my mother who has taught me life lessons that adds up to a list to long to list.  I am thankful for my ex wife that has never kept me from my kids and has truly been a blessing in the end.  I am thankful for all the women that have rejected me as of late.  They have saved me so much time in life.  Dealing with shallow people is getting old.  I am thankful to the true friends in my life that at different points helped me along the way.    Life is about the journey and i have had aalot of friends help me along the way.  Different people at different stops along the way.  Thank you to everyone of you even the ones that didn't really care you helped alot.  I am thankful for a great car it may not be what everyone thinks is a great car but it just keeps going.  gets me to where i need to be.  i am thankful for lifeclass really has changed my life.  these are just a few things i just wanted to share.  

I am starting a gratitude journal tonight.  I would hope that someone that reads this would do the same thing.  Write down 5 things a day that you are thankful for.  

Every breath that you take is a gift from God almighty. 

The human condition

Over the past few hours I have been though alot of stresses that i have placed on myself.  i have recovered quite well in my eyes.  It is funny how easy it is to stress about the future that we don't even know how it is going to turn out.  We stress about the future and most the time the stressors never come to be.  It is so important to live in the present time and in the present moment.  Things can change and you may become blessed.

Second part of this blog.  The more i live this life and interact with so-called friends.  These people will act like they care just to insult you to make themselves feel better.  It is just funny to see how much can be gained from insulting others but that is short lived.  These so-called friends are not worth your time or your attention.  The friends that cut a run at the first sign you are having a hard time instead of helping you though it take my advice you are better without them.  They are not worth your time and giving them a thought about their lack of loyalty just brings you down.  I know alot of these and they have done nothing but hurt me in the end.  and some of them are reading this.  this is the only blog i will do that actually pretains to people that may be reading it.

Lack of loyalty and commitment are part of the human condition.  People will again always leave you hanging.  You must depend on yourself and no one else.

On another note i will be writing about soon Rejection sucks.

WOW

WOW.  My transformation took a great leap forward today.  I was able to do something alone most people wouldn’t do.  It was funny when I told people I was going to the zoo alone people said “how sad”.  For the first time in my life I rejected those words.  I laughed.  Why is it sad to do things alone in life.  To be true the only person that can make us happy is ourselves.  No one else can.  They can make us feel good but they can not make us truly happy.  I had an awesome time today whether it was by myself or not.  I learned some things and just enjoyed this awesome day.  I am so blessed.  I have wonderful kids and a wonderful family.  I am truly a blessed man.  When you start to enjoy your time alone that is when you can truly enjoy your time with the people in your life.  When you define yourself with anyone by needing their approval to be happy then you are not truly happy you are just pleasing another person.  I cannot wait for this transformation to take full course in my life.  I am so excited about the future I have place applications to start volunteering.  I am pumped to finally have a vision and purpose for my life. 

Interactions

So I have had this writing on my brain for a few days but was very apprehensive about posting because of peoples perceptions of my words in the past.  So I will say this.  This is not directed toward anyone in particular this is just an observation of life in general.  This is not meant in a negative way but a positive way.   

Friends

Life is full of interactions.  That is what is truly about in the end is your interactions with people and how those interactions are perceived by not only yourself but the people that the interactions are with.  Some of the interactions are with total strangers.  These are normally on a daily basis and most people don’t give them a lot of thought.  From the guy you cut off in traffic to the homeless person you walked by this morning and ignored.  These interactions are speak very highly to your character.  How you treat strangers that you will never see again is big. 

Then there are those interactions with people you know in your life due to work or some other need based relationship.  These are the people in your life that you may talk to every day but these people are not tied to your heart.  These are the people you may just put on a face for or just put up with them in your normal everyday life.  Not much thought is given to your interactions with these people.  You may be nice to these people you may be not be but in your mind these people are not truly important to your core.  Their opinions of you and your life don’t truly matter to you in the end.  I see these relationships as fake for the most part.  Some may give the impression that you matter but ultimately when your situation changes these people are out of your life. 

Then there are those interactions with the people in your life that are in your heart.  These people you may not always get along with but they are in your core and they matter to you.  These are the interactions that matter most to you in a lot of ways.  These may be with friend, your spouse, family member or anyone that truly means something to you.  A lot of time we care what these people think about us and care about their opinions.  These are the interactions we take for granted a lot of times.   These people are normally the ones that get treated the worse because they are the closest. 

The interactions we have in life define our character.  Whether they be with a stranger or your best friend.  When we understand that this is the legacy we are leaving behind it becomes important to work on those relationships and learn how to truly treat people.  We must understand that to truly act in love and gratitude and truly be happy we must strengthen our character and our interactions with everyone.  

I myself have been on a transformation over the last few months of my life.  Some of you that read this may know this and have seen it in my life.  Some of you may have not taken the time to get to know this.  But the more I learn about myself and about my journey in this life the more I see the interactions from my past.  I see the positive ones and the negative ones.  The lessons that I am learning from these are shaping my present and future.  This is known to a lot of people as karma.  In other words reaping what you sow in this life.  I have learned when you do not interact with the people you truly care about in life and you don’t nourish those relationships they die.  Most the time they cannot be brought back to life.  There is no excuse for this in my mind anymore.  If someone matters to your core then you must take that time and nourish that relationship if you truly hope to keep it.  Even the interactions with the people you may not care about in your life are very important.  I have learned you must act in love as much as possible if not at every moment. 

Now on to what this writing is truly about Friends.  What is a friend to you?  Most people would say someone I hang out with.  Someone that is important to me.  Someone that I connect with.  There is a wide view of what true friendship is and everyone can have a different definition.  When we are dealing with people that we know as friends their definition of that may be different than yours.  So when you are upset with this person that may be your friend they just may have a different view of what friendship is. 

I have had a lot of “friends” in my life that have been surface friends that have been great in my life for a time but they were not meant to be in my life for an extended amount of time.  They have come and gone and some have come back.  These friendship are not based on the same definition of friendship and normal just based on good times in life.  These friendship normally end when either ones situation in life changes.  Most people’s lives are littered with these friendships.  They were good for a time but for whatever reason just didn’t continue in life. 

Some friendships are lifelong these are the people that you can count on in life.  These are the people that though the changes in life situations stand by you and you by them.  You have probably known them most your life.  And you know that you can run to them when you need them.   These people sometimes get the worst of you because you know in your heart they will be there for you. 

No my take on this stuff. 

You interactions in life mean a lot.  We must try to interact in love at all times in life.  We must try and be a positive interaction in the life of others.  That is part of my transformation to have more positive interactions on a daily basis.  With that said if you are reading this and I have offend or hurt you in our relationship please reach out to me and lets have a conversation.  If not I understand.  I hope this blog wasn’t to long and I know it rambled but that is the only way I could put these thoughts down.   

Moments in life.

            Ever get to thinking about when you were a kid and miss those times.  I find myself doing that a lot when I have my kids.  From when I was very young and remember playing with Michael and ricky at eagle point.  Trying to find trouble to get into.  Always building a clubhouse.  Riding bikes from the time we got home from school to the time it got dark.  Sleep overs on the weekends and swimming in the summer.  I loved being in the pool something I don’t do near enough anymore.  Finding random things and using them to build a clubhouse to hang out in that would always be torn down the next day by the maintaince man at the apartments.  The time I was riding my bike and had a wreck that sent me to the hospital.  I spent that night in the hospital as my chest wall was about to cave in.  All I wanted to do was go play again.  To falling and needing stitches for the first time and begging my mom to let my big brother give them to me since he was in civil air patrol.  I know it made no sense but it did for a 10 year old.  I still have that scar and it brings back a lot of memories.

 All these and more memories from my childhood are something I treasure.  Human beings are really the only creatures that can recall memories to the extent they can feel that same feelings they felt when they were in that moment.    Sometimes like the memories I talked about before it is good thoughts.  A lot of time we has human beings can allow the past to affect us in a very bad way.  We can allow it to keep negative feelings in us and continue to hurt just as it was happening again.  In that way we allow the past to continue to hurt us.  These things still have power over us and keep us locked into this pain.  To feel pain over and over for the same thing is torture you never truly get past the bad things in life to enjoy the moment you are in.  That is the best time to live in is the moment you are in right now.  To allow the past to ruin this moment is a crime of the soul.  The only moment that exists is the one you are in at this moment.  The past doesn’t exist anymore and the future is not promised.  So the only moment that exists is the moment we are in.  That doesn’t mean we should not have a plan and goals for the future but to obsess and to ruin this moment you in for the future is not smart.  The future may never come and you have sacrificed parts of your life for things that never existed. 

This life is just a blink in eternity we only have a whisper in the history of the universe to live and enjoy this gift called life.  You must live this life with passion and with purpose.  Find your passion and you will find your purpose in life.  Breath in the moments in life and live each one to its fullest.  Only you control this fact no one else can make you enjoy life and live it to the fullest.  

My grandmother

has i saw that dick Clark died today at 82 it got me to thinking about my grandmother. not many people that will read this knew her. I started thinking about her life and being able to live till she was 90. WOW. What she saw in her life from 1915- 2005. When you read that events probably pop in your head to to world wars to women's rights to racial equity. i am inspired that she got to live such a long life. A lot of people don't get that much time on this earth. the one thing that all of us is promised is death. It will find us all in time. that time may be tomorrow or we may live till we are 90. We must catch what we can and effect the lives that we can while we are breathing and while we have the gift that is life. I signed up for volunteering today with a great organization. I am excited to start living my passion and helping kids as my mamaw, as i called her, inspired me to do. She was the strongest person i have ever met. I love her and miss her to this day. she taught me lessons about life and how to be a great person. She stood up for herself when it was unpopular. I am truly inspired by her and by her life. To live this life for 90 years is an amazing blessing that most people never get to achieve. She was very determined to live that long.

Reinventing

First blog in a very very long time. Writing is something i have lost over the years and something that is become more important to me. I Have found it to be an awesome tool and awesome way that things seem to work out. So i will be restarting my blog. this blog will be about my random thoughts, writings, my children, and life in general. I hope that anyone that reads this enjoys it. but most importantly i hope you can take something away from my writings.