Last night i was looking though some very old pictures of mine and I found myself down memory lane. Thinking of all the good things that me and my ex's had done and all the good times we had. It is so very interesting how i am able to go back and almost feel the same feelings that i felt back then. It seems to be living in a dream world but i can still Feel and sense just as i did. As I thought about these good times that i have had with the people that have been in my life. A lot of those people are no longer in my life or are just in my life in passing. Someone i see on Facebook or just in passing in life. I started to think about how i think about them and how we look at ex's. I don't just mean ex girlfriends or boyfriends i also mean ex friends and family members we no longer talk too.
It is amazing how quickly we vilify the ex's in our lives. We are so quick to forget the good times that we had with that person. In fact if we go back and look at what made us love that person to begin with they probably wont become the ex but that is for another time. If you were to look at our ex's for the reasons that we like or loved them for I don't think we would be so quick to vilify them. I think that when we break up with someone or cut someone out of our life there is a reason and i am not saying that we should keep people in our life that have no place any more or someone that brings you down. But I am saying that instead of hating the time we had with that person we should look at it for what it is. Look at our time with them in the good light that is was. Every relationship that we have on this earth is sent here to teach us something. They may not last our whole life but it will teach us the lesson it is here to teach us. If we do not learn our lesson we will continue to have the same type of relationships over and over. Let me make myself an example to this fact. Since i became a divorced person in 2010 i have a lot of the same relationships with different people. Most my dating interactions have either moved extremely fast and commitment has come very early then fizzed out fairly quickly once we got to know the true person or i have been stood up or not talked to after 1 date. Heck i had someone move in my home 2 months knowing them. So i had to learn my lesson and know what causes this and learn from those relationships. I look at each interaction with these women as a lesson. I have now become a lot more authentic then i ever was. And when you are your true self then not ever person will like you it is proven. So we must learn from each relationship ever one of my exs came into my life to teach me a lesson and brought a lot of great things into my life. I truely believe we should look at the exs in our lives for the great time and the lessons they have taught us. It truly sucks when the person you want no longer wants us. Trust me i know that hurt i have been rejected a lot in my life. But that doesn't erase what that person meant to us in the past. This was on my heart to write and I know that i have jumped around but i had to share. Bless you.
