The lesson you learn in this dating world.

Last night i felt lead to finally write about something i have had on my mind for a long time.  I became single about 3 years ago.  This was something that happened very speedy and i was a single man before i knew it.  Well i started dating by asking friends to set me up.  But has any of my friends know they didn't have anyone lol.  So i started online dating as i hadn't dated since right out of high school.  I had gotten with my now ex wife about a year out of high school.  So dating was and still is confusing to me.  Going out and meeting people was intimidating.  So i have went out of many dates off of online dating with a varying range of results.  Most have been 1 date and then we don't really talk again.  Some have turned into relationships.  Some of you reading this may have been in one of those with me.  I am so thankful for everyone that i have had to chance to meet or to date.  Each one of you have taught me lessons about life.  I have had good relationships that just didn't work at that time in my life.  Some ended badly and i was taken advantage of.  

But over all i have learned so much about myself and the law of attraction thought dating.  In dating the law of attraction is very easy to see.  If you think that you are not good enough for the date then it comes true pretty quick.  If you believe that they are not into you for what ever reason then you make that true whether or not they are into you.  I bet that last one was me.  Before i got my teeth fixed i thought everyone was looking at it just waiting to turn me down because of it.  This may have been true but over all i don't think it really is. We must concentrate on what we want not what we don't want.  i have learned so much from each and every person i have dated.  I am not going to name names and call people out but i am so thankful for the lessons that i have been taught.  

This life of being single can be rough when you deal with as much rejection as i have in my life.  I was born a fighter and i will continue to be a fighter in life.  I have heard no plenty of times in life because i refuse to settle for second best any more i will continue to hear it.  But i know beyond any doubt i will have an amazing relationship and love it my life.  And with that belief it will come to me.  

Thoughts are things and we must remember that.  The next date i go on could be with my future wife or it could be a one date.  But that shouldn't matter because you don't know what it will be before it.  Treat everyone with love, respect and compassion.  The last one i do believe is the rarest in the world of dating.  People and not compassionate with the truth they are hard and mean because of what have happened to them in the past.  Don't make the next person pay for the mistakes of people in your past.  The baggage should be dealt with and not unloaded on the next person you go out with.  

I truly hope my ramblings helped in some ways.  I believe that we can have deep relationships if we just are honest and treat others with love.  I do have to say in closing i am so glad i have had the chance to date around some times it feels lonely but over all i have met some amazing people.  

The big change in eddie's life

Yesterday as many of you know i completed something i should have a long time ago.  I am so happy that when i smile i can show my teeth now without being scared.  Since the end of my marriage i have had a front tooth missing.  Every date that i have been on i think about it and i see the looks and the judgment that has been placed on me.  I have learned so much from missing a front tooth.  i have learned about human nature and about judgment.  I have learned that flaws are something everyone has and some can not deal with others flaws.  I have learned to not judge a book by it's cover.  When we truly come from a place of love those flaws do not matter.  i am so happy that i invested in myself.  I am starting to learn that the law of manifestation is true.  That your thoughts control your reality.  Whatsoever and man thinks he becomes.  Thank you to all my friends that have helped me along this journey.  I have some of the greatest friends in the world.

The Exs Club

Last night i was looking though some very old pictures of mine and I found myself down memory lane.  Thinking of all the good things that me and my ex's had done and all the good times we had.  It is so very interesting how i am able to go back and almost feel the same feelings that i felt back then.  It seems to be living in a dream world but i can still Feel and sense just as i did.  As I thought about these good times that i have had with the people that have been in my life.  A lot of those people are no longer in my life or are just in my life in passing.  Someone i see on Facebook or just in passing in life.  I started to think about how i think about them and how we look at ex's.  I don't just mean ex girlfriends or boyfriends i also mean ex friends and family members we no longer talk too.
It is amazing how quickly we vilify the ex's in our lives.  We are so quick to forget the good times that we had with that person.   In fact if we go back and look at what made us love that person to begin with they probably wont become the ex but that is for another time.  If you were to look at our ex's for the reasons that we like or loved them for I don't think we would be so quick to vilify them.  I think that when we break up with someone or cut someone out of our life there is a reason and i am not saying that we should keep people in our life that have no place any more or someone that brings you down.  But I am saying that instead of hating the time we had with that person we should look at it for what it is.  Look at our time with them in the good light that is was.  Every relationship that we have on this earth is sent here to teach us something.  They may not last our whole life but it will teach us the lesson it is here to teach us.  If we do not learn our lesson we will continue to have the same type of relationships over and over.  Let me make myself an example to this fact.  Since i became a divorced person in 2010 i have a lot of the same relationships with different people.  Most my dating interactions have either moved extremely fast and commitment has come very early then fizzed out fairly quickly once we got to know the true person or i have been stood up or not talked to after 1 date.  Heck i had someone move in my home 2 months knowing them.  So i had to learn my lesson and know what causes this and learn from those relationships.  I look at each interaction with these women as a lesson.  I have now become a lot more authentic then i ever was.  And when you are your true self then not ever person will like you it is proven.  So we must learn from each relationship ever one of my exs came into my life to teach me a lesson and brought a lot of great things into my life.  I truely believe we should look at the exs in our lives for the great time and the lessons they have taught us.  It truly sucks when the person you want no longer wants us.  Trust me i know that hurt i have been rejected a lot in my life.  But that doesn't erase what that person meant to us in the past.  This was on my heart to write and I know that i have jumped around but i had to share.  Bless you.

Why should i give you my time. "friend"

First off i will still be using this blog for more of a journal when i want people to read whats going on in my life.   EDDAVATE will be for my motivational stuff.

What has been on my mind the past few days is why in the hell would i give someone my time when they only come around when they need a pick me up or when it is convenient to them.  In my dating life since being divorced i have been treated so horrible and put on the back burner so much.  I have friends that only wanna come around when they don't have a bf or gf..  Then i am their best friend until the next.  A lot of guys talk about the friend zone in life and i am ok with the friends zone if it is a true friendship.  But to be honest most are not.  They want you around to give them attention and when you are not needed you are trashed.  it i sad because life could be so much better with good friendships.  When it comes to dating my dating life has been a joke.  i know i am not the best looking guy in this world but i am one hell of a guy.  i know i have a broken front tooth but i am still a catch.  When that right one finds that out and opens up to me they will find something amazing.  But to be ignored talked to like a dog and treated the way i have been it uncalled for.  On every dating profile i read i want an honest man.  That won;t treat me bad.  how do you ever think you will get that if you still date the same douche bag looking trash that you always have.  And when you get a guy that does pay his bills supports his children and works 2 jobs you ignore him and what he is.  I am better then that will ever be.  I love how women will just talk to you when they want sokmething.  But hey i am just venting at this point.  I am blessed beyond belief and on the road to my full potential.  So when they look back and see me on TV.  they can tell their family that is the guy i stood up.  Have fun

Thanks again for reading.

The Phoenix

Though burning and ash

Though scorch and pain

Though the agony of hell

And the burning of every cell

A new being is born

A Stronger, more determined

More beautiful and true being

A being that learned though the pain

Is born strength and beauty

He is ready to fly again

He is ready to be what he was meant to be

The Phoenix



The pain of love

Love is a word that is given and taken away so much in the world today.  I truly believe love can heal all wounds and love can make a way though anything in life.  Love is the language of the universe.  When we act in love we are letting the universe that God himself created flow though us. 

     As i have said before since we are made from the divine we ourselves are divine.  God has allowed us to be like him with our own free will to do what we want too.  But he also gave us the responsibility of our decisions.  He allows us to make what ever decision we want but we must live with those consequences.  I truly believe this is the ultimate love to allow someone you love so much to make up their own mind about things.  But to know that those decisions have consequences is even greater.  to know that we can prosper from our decisions to know that we alone control our fate on this earth is an amazing thing.  I am so thankful for this ability.  No one controls us.  We make our own decisions in this life and where ever we are in life is because we choose to be there.  This is such a powerful statement.  That the universe that flows though us puts us in situations based about who we are and what our energy is.  I am so thankful today for this ability.  

so you think you know me

So you think you know me.  

You think you know my thoughts

You think you know my reasons

Your decisions are based off the past

they are based off of others. 

Your eyes are tinted with the past

and the actions of others

You think you can predict what i will do

Because of what others have done. 

You have taken no time to know my intent

or to learn who i am

you base your decisions off others

because of this you lose this moment

and this awesome person that stands in front of you.